Leo's step-by-step guide for the afternoon bus routine · Laminate and post at home or on the bus
Use Counter-Control language: "In two minutes we're getting on the bus. Do you want to go first or wait for another kid?" Not "Time to get on the bus!"
Naming the feeling works: If Leo seems anxious about the noise, say "I see the bus area feels loud. Let's get inside where it's quieter." Acknowledge his experience; don't dismiss it.
Give him sensory tools: Headphones, a fidget toy, or a quiet corner seat all help Leo regulate during the ride. Offer choices: "Do you want headphones or time to look out the window?"
No forced compliance: If Leo refuses to board, pause. Offer a sensory break or a redo. Never force him on the bus. A refusal now prevents a bigger meltdown during the ride.
Celebrate cooperation: "You got on the bus and stayed calm the whole ride. That's real work." Specific, genuine praise—not just "good job."